Asshole Mitigation Plan

The only thing an asshole cannot do is de-center themselves. Everyone has asshole moments where they feel like they are or should be the center of the universe (and often not in a good way; “Why me?!?” is often an asshole question). Also, there are areas where you should center yourself, such as managing or

I thiiiink we’ve covered most of the basic concepts we’re going to need in order to take the Asshole Mitigation Plan into a larger context, except one: setting boundaries. It’s a big topic and my brain can’t hold the whole thing all at once, so I’m going to try breaking it down into smaller chunks.

Here’s a question: how do you know whether or not you’re an asshole? In fact, how do you know anything about yourself? Humans are subjective. We see things from our own biased point of view, or sometimes from someone else’s biased point of view.—When someone says they’re “just being objective,” I mentally mark it down

Since the last post, I’ve spent a week or so working on handling things that I had been avoiding. A lot of stuff was handled…and a lot of that promptly became problems again. Taking one step forward does not mean resolving a problem, most of the time, because many of our systems are designed to

Let’s say I don’t want you to do something. If you don’t do the thing, I will either reward you for not doing the thing or I will do nothing, depending on the circumstances. This includes my mood and other resources. If you do the thing, I will either punish you for doing the thing

So we’ve defined the broad limits of what an asshole is: someone who can’t natively anticipate the consequences of their actions. If you happen to look at the news, you’ll see a lot of examples, naturally, given that Shitler and MAGA are all over the place. Of recent note are the MAGA idiots in the

Okay, so now I’ve defined what an asshole is. The next thing to define is why. Why assholes? If they’re so bad, so insidious, and so destructive, why do they even exist? Isn’t natural selection supposed to get rid of traits that are bad for the survival of the species?!? (No, by the way; natural

What is an asshole? So far, I’ve mostly discussed low-scale manipulative and controlling behavior, stuff with low social stakes that’s pretty easy to overlook. I’ve touched on domestic abuse, systemic abuses—like pushy marketing emails and the health insurance industry in general—and catastrophic abuses, specifically the current Shitler dictatorship and his bootlicking shock troops, ICE. Basically,

I don’t wanna write about this: as soon as I knew what I was gonna choose to write about next, I started trying to avoid it. When I did start writing, I ranted for a while because I didn’t want to think about how bad I felt thinking about it. I deleted the rant, started